Should a Man Relate to a Woman on Her
Level?
The following is an excerpt from the book, Why Women Love Bastards,
which can be found at
http://whywomenlovebastards.com
Unlike the many, many 'no more mr. nice guy' books, the answer to getting
and keeping women is not to become more aggressive. Sheesh! What some
'lead-me-by-the-nose' Nice Guys will believe! Let me tell you, there are
some really aggressive Nice Guys, and they still score a big, fat ZERO on
a woman's "gotta have" list. Aggression has nothing to do with being a Real
Man, and is not the answer to becoming the Bastard That Women Love!
And neither is trying to mold yourself into being just like her!
You must allow her to be a woman, but don't twist yourself into a pretzel
to try to understand and relate to her on her level. Forget all the so-called
'expert' relationship advice you may have gotten and all the self-help books
you may have read, and purge every Oprah and Dr. Phil show memory that you
may have stored in your brain's database.
Contrary to popular belief women really don't want a man that
understands them, makes cute little sympathetic sighing noises as
she rambles on and on, or changes his manly ways and learns how to grow a
flower garden because she likes flowers. She doesn't want a man who runs
the water while he relieves himself lest she hears his tinkling noise and
becomes offended, and she especially doesn't want a man that can sit there
for hours and talk about feelings and who's cheating who.
She also doesn't want a man that holds her hand while flitting through every
store in the mall, dutifully carrying her bags and packages or meekly trailing
behind her as she picks up one item after another... "oh, isn't this dress
just so 'cute'...? Millie has one similar to it, you know? Oh, and did I
tell you what Millie told me about Linda? Well! It seems that Linda was at
Eva's place the other night and she told Judy that Bill had gone down to
Mike's and..."
She doesn't want too much equal power in her relationships, and she, especially,
doesn't want the higher power (even though she thinks she does, she will
lose respect for a man that gives it to her). And if she needs someone who
understands her as a woman let her call her girlfriends, as you just can't
do that! You are a man and you only know how to be as a man.
She also doesn't want little love letters left out for her to swoon over
- unless you have screwed up. In that case, a love (apology) letter then
gives her the hope that she is making some headway or advancement in her
genetically pre-programmed efforts to 'change' you. (P.S. boys, this is what
keeps her hooked to you.) So men, make sure that you do carry out
those little manly screw ups (like being insensitive) now and then so you
can be all humble and apologetic :) ... you don't want to be too perfect,
but you do want her to think that she's making some progress at reforming
you into a woman!
By Tigress Luv, the Breakup Guru
Are you a Bad Boy, a Nice Guy, or the Bastard That Women Love?
For help with this issue please visit Why Women Love Bastards at
http://whywomenlovebastards.com
or for help with any breakup or relationship issue, please visit Tigress
Luv and The Lifted Hearts Community at
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above article is an excerpt from the book, Why Women Love Bastards.
The book can be found at
http://whywomenlovebastards.com
About the Author:
Tigress Luv, the Break Up Guru, has been mending broken hearts and repairing
broken relationships for years. You can read more about her works
here.
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