When Love Ends
By Tigress Luv
are one of those fortunate few who met their soulmate in grade school,
married right out of high school, and spent the next 60 years in wedded
bliss you are going to go through what millions before you have gone
through, and what millions after you will go through - a broken heart.
The pain experienced during a breakup is as individual as the millions
of people who go through it. While some simply shake the dust off and
get right back into the dating game, others are left so devastated that
they never date again, spending the rest of their life in bitter
solitude. Why the difference? Could some of us just be stronger than
others? Do some people love harder than others? Are some loves more
connected than others?
For most of
us who experience a breakup a normal grieving period will occur: Denial
and Isolation, Anger, Bargaining, Depression, and finally Acceptance.
But for some, the grief and devastation are so severe that they end up
hospitalized, and even suicidal. Others remain either bitter or so
afraid of getting hurt that they never date again, closing off their
hearts to just about everyone. Yet, some don't even grieve at all,
subconsciously choosing to simply transfer their feelings for one
person immediately onto that of another person in what is called a
variation? Well, a lot of it has to do with our loving style. There are
many loving styles ranging from the very healthy, to the desperately
needy. While one person may love another in a supportive and healthy
way, another person may cling onto their mate simply as a way to fix
what they imagine to be wrong with themselves. They use their partner
as a method of dealing with their own imagined inadequacies or feelings
of unworthiness - feeling good only as long as they are in the
relationship. Others simply like the 'high' of being in love. This high
becomes addictive to them and they hop from one relationship instantly
into another - often times head-over-heels in love by the second date.
They recklessly seek 'love' much as an addict will seek a 'fix', and
are often so in need of being in love that they imagine their partners
to have all the qualities they are looking for in a mate - whether
their partners actually possess these qualities or not. Still others
simply surrender themselves into their relationships quickly losing
themselves and their own sense of individuality, becoming 'the
relationship'. Should the relationship end, then shall they, too.
view of oneself, one's partner, and one's relationship is essential to
withstanding the ups, and downs, in our eternal search for that special
someone to share our lives with.
Have a great week everyone! For
more information about getting the attention you need and deserve read, How to Gain Back Your Attraction, at http://winbacktheirattraction.com
published by Tigress Luv & Glass Slipper Publishing, the Breakup Gurus. For more
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