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Should You Give Your Ex Another Chance?
By Hayley Hunkin
You Give Your Ex Another Chance?
Your ex-boyfriend wants you back. He has made
it clear that he is still interested in a relationship with you. Now
the ball is in your court and you have to decide whether to give him
another chance or not.
Asking yourself the following questions will make your decision easier.
Has Your Ex Changed?
Your relationship broke up for a reason. If nothing has changed, and he
has not dealt with the reason for the break-up, you will end up
breaking up again. This just extends the period of heartbreak you will
suffer. Has he shown you that he has been working on the issues that
caused the break up in the first place?
Can You Forgive The Hurt?
Breaking up hurts both people. In the end of a relationship, there are
often arguments and fights, and both parties may say things they do not
mean in the heat of the fight. Are you still harbouring these hurts or
can you forgive your ex?
Are You Just Lonely?
Often after a relationship breaks up, loneliness takes over. If you
want to get back with your ex only because you are lonely without him,
the relationship is likely to end again. Once you get back together and
loneliness is no longer a factor, the old reasons for breaking up in
the first place will just resurface.
Why Do You Love Your Ex?
Think of the reasons why you first fell in love with him. What were the
qualities and characteristics that first attracted you to him? Does he
still have these qualities, or did he change during the relationship?
If he still has the qualities you love, and you can still feel
affection and love for him, the relationship has a chance.
Have You Changed?
Sometimes a break up is a catalyst for tremendous personal growth. If
you have experienced this, either you can have success in forging a new
relationship with your ex, or it could be a big disaster to get back
If you have grown beyond your ex, getting back together will not solve
anything. If you have grown and changed in ways that will enable you to
be more loving in a relationship, moving forward in a relationship with
your ex is possible.
Will The Relationship Be Better This Time?
The answer to this question is the key in deciding whether to get back
with your ex or not. If the relationship will return to the old level,
it will end in failure as it did the first time. If the relationship is
at a stage where you can start fresh and both of you are more willing
to change in the future, your relationship could be much stronger this
Answering these six questions should help you to decide whether you
want to pursue a relationship again with your ex, or whether it is
better to simply say goodbye and move on with your own life.
Making the decision to move on with your own life can open up many
opportunities for romance with someone else. You can learn from the
relationship and you will know what characteristics in men you should
avoid in the future. You may experience a period of loneliness, but
that can be better than going back to a doomed relationship because you
will just prolong the pain.
However, if you have both worked through the issues that caused the
break up in the first place, you have a real chance to make your
relationship work again. Remember you cannot go back and recapture what
was in the past, nor should you want to. Do not try to recapture the
initial relationship, but build the relationship again. Move in a
forward direction, not reverse!
You can enjoy the good parts of the relationship again and work to
build a stronger, better relationship together. It is possible that the
break up itself was the catalyst for making changes in the right
direction and you now have more hope of a bright future together. You
may want to consider setting some ground rules this time to ensure the
Whatever you decide, make sure you feel comfortable with the decision.
Relationships are complex and even those closest to you may not fully
understand your decision. It is your life and you need to be happy with
what if you're the one that wants them back, but they are no longer
attracted to you as a mate?
How much of their sense of attraction to you have they lost?
....maybe they have broke up with you
....maybe you are together but you sense that they're not
attracted to you anymore
....maybe they just have become too familiar (or bored) with you...
....maybe things just 'stopped' after the baby was born
....maybe you have put on a few pounds
....or maybe they just don't see you in 'that way' anymore
It doesn't matter why; all you know is that they're
not attracted to you anymore! But soon you'll discover just how easy it
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Today's Inspiration, Poem
"There are two sides to every
divorce: yours and shithead's." ~Anonymous
feel jealous of your ex's new love as this new love is now being fed
the same line of bullshit that your ex once fed you. If anything, you
should pity them." ~ Tigress Luv, The Breakup Guru
Prayer or Thought:
season is in full swing and trucks loaded with bales of green-gold
leave the meadows stirred into action. Killdeer circle overhead, and
quail call for a covey scattered by the noise of machines. To all
appearances, this is the quiet season - but appearances are deceiving.
The end is never the end but another beginning. The grasses drying in
the sun have dropped seeds that will sprout again. Tall graceful
sunflowers shade the wild petunias that wait for another rain. We
finish one thing and begin another - always with a fresh eye for how we
can do better. It reminds us that what we want to reap, we must first
plant and cultivate and water with love.
Thank you for reading this week's newsletter! As always, we welcome
feedback and new ideas for future newsletters.
Great Spirit has smiled upon us and made us glad." ~KEOKUK 1848
Have a great week everyone!
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