What to Do When You Still Have Feelings for the Ex
Moving past a broken heart can be hard for anyone, but it seems to be especially hard for those who still have feelings for the ex. It's okay to still have feelings for your ex but it's better for you to start moving forward. Don't hold onto the hope that you two might end up back together again. Try to follow these six tips below, written specifically for those who still have feelings for their ex.
Feelings for the Ex: Tip One
Go ahead and cry! Many men and women falsely believe that it's better to hide their hurt and pain than to just let it out and grieve. This creates even more chaos in your life, such as depression, reckless behavior, or worse. So, it's okay to cocoon with some sad music and just cry your eyes out in your pillow. Your emotions are real and grieving is part of the process you need to go through on your road to letting someone go.
Feelings for the Ex: Tip Two
FRIENDS & FAMILY
Turn to those who love you for support and encouragement. The true friends in our life love and care about us, and have probably been exactly where you are a time or two, themselves. Confide in the people you trust and watch the magic of their wisdom help you through the breakup.
Feelings for the Ex: Tip Three
GET YOUR BEHIND OUT THE DOOR
You don't have to become a social butterfly, but don't encase your front door in cement, either! Get out, force yourself to smile and do something socially. Take up a friend's offer to go for dinner, or shopping, or to a concert or a movie. It will help uplift your spirits just to be in a different environment. Give yourself time to grieve, yes, but also start making small changes to your daily routine. This could mean simply stopping off for a drink with a co-worker after work instead of going straight home to your cocoon.
Feelings for the Ex: Tip Four
Enroll in a class or workshop, or even join a league (pool, darts, etc.,) When you were in your relationship you probably focused more on your partner's needs, wants, desires, and interests, than you did on your own. We sometimes forget ourselves in our relationships. You can find some groups or classes by taking a look Online or in the community newspaper. There's always new things to try, and you can always quit if it isn't your cup of tea.
Feelings for the Ex: Tip Five
Get physical! I have walked off many a broken heart, and you can too! Go to the gym or get in on a workout class. If you take care of yourself, it will increase your confidence and mood. Check your local gym and find out about drop in rates. See what kinds of new workout classes are offered. Sign up for something that you are genuinely interested in and stick with it. Or, walk or jog like I did. It toned my muscles, gave me shaply legs and a great butt, brought more oxygen to my brain (so I was more level-headed) and gave me a great looking tan (not for sun-phobes, though).
Feelings for the Ex: Tip Six
ACCEPT THE LOVE
Don't fight the feeling you still have for your ex! I have learned that the worse thing someone can do is to try not to love someone. So just accept that you love them, and perhaps you always will. There is nothing wrong with loving someone. Love shouldn't need to be reciprocated or appreciated. Just look up... you will see that there is a lot of love that abounds that isn't recognized, appreciated, or reciprocated.
It's always harder when the breakup was initiated by your ex, and especially hard for those who still have feelings for their ex. Feelings for the ex just don't go away, but they do diminish and get easier and more acceptable with time and understanding. The healing process will begin when you start living your life for you. It's important to focus on the positive things that lay ahead of your new single life.
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