and the Affair
thoughts by Tigress Luv
affairs more common today than they were when our parents and
grandparents were married, or are we just more open, gossipy, or
fascinated with sex today then we were then? Are we more influenced
today by media sensationalism, faltering morals, baring our all on talk
shows, and lowered values demeaning the word 'commitment' and 'love'?
Or are we just more 'open' about infidelity?
definitely has little to offer in the field of morals and sexual
discretion. Just about every show, movie, or commercial you watch are
filled with enticing hard bodies scantily clad in clinging, sexy, and
revealing fashion. Even music videos have sexual undertones with
flesh-revealing stars gyrating seductively to the beat. The subject of
sex, and models chosen for their enticing provocative bodies are
constantly being forced in our faces via the television in our living
rooms, the pages in our magazines, the movies we see, the world wide
web, the words to our music, the books we read, and gossip tabloids.
It's all about sex.
So then can we
really blame someone for having an affair after they have been
repeatedly teased, tantalized, and titillated? Yes, maybe we haven't
given into it ourselves, but did we have the actual opportunity? Did we
opt to remain faithful because we wanted to feel like self-righteous
martyrs? Because we feared getting caught? We feared disease? We feared
getting emotionally attached to our lover? Or are we hypocrites that
claim marriage and sex is 'sacred', let we had numerous sexual partners
and liaisons before we married? Are we only being moral, because we
don't want our partners to cheat back? Are we faithful simply because
we don't want our partners to leave us? Or are we
faithful because we love and honor our partners? Yes, we want to believe that we love and honor our mates, but is that all there is
to our faithfulness? Do we honor our vows? What about religious
influences? And why is sex outside a marriage a
sin, yet sex without marriage is acceptable?
This article is
not offered in defense of the cheater. Even in the grandest of
temptation, most thinking moral people would say,
"No. This is wrong."
are sensationalized by the media, by office gossip, by tabloids, by
movies, by television, by books, and by music. Often, too, adultery is
glorified - just look at the book and movie, The Bridges of
Madison County. The whole country stood in fascination and
attendance focusing on ex-President Clinton's words. Was it that
fascinating? A disgusting little fling, or human error? No matter what
our opinion, there we stood, entranced by what transpired. We have
become a country, a nation - a world - obsessed with sex. What once was
private and sacred has now become publicly exploited and as socially
acceptable as shaking hands.
And, too, the
examples we see via the media has consistently proven to us that
affairs are acceptable and that loving partners forgive. Is this giving
the impression to our children that cheating is 'okay'? That if we
cheat, we are to be forgiven and abolished of all fault and blame? Or
that, if we are cheated upon that we are not 'loving'
partners if we don't accept and forgive?
The result? No
one is immune from having the surrender to temptation disrupt their
lives, or the lives of those they care about.
The subject of
this article is to bring to focus that affairs are not just personal,
private matters anymore. Infidelity is an issue that society in
general, needs to claim. It is an issue based on lower morals and
indiscriminate media. It affects all of us, not just a select few.
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