absolute most haunting pain of a breakup is the feeling of being
unlovable, unworthy and rejectable.....
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YOUR DIGNITY AFTER A BREAKUP
by Tigress Luv and by a Member of Our Lifted Hearts Community - http://liftedhearts.com
Revel to Grovel
please please please please take me back!"
Of all the uncomfortable feelings that happen after a breakup, some of
the most devastating are the feelings of being unlovable, unworthy and
rejectable. You lose so much pride that it's hard to think of any way
to gain it back short of re-gaining their heart and love back, and of
being worthy of being in a relationship with 'them' once again.
You'd do just about anything to restore your ego, pride and feelings of
And all you end up doing is losing more pride by acting in undesirable
and desperate ways. You plead, you beg, you stalk, you cry, you
threaten, and you dream incessantly about ways of getting back in their
good and loving graces.
The loss of pride after a breakup causes us to try to convince our
partners that they are 'wrong', and that our way is 'right'. We try
logical reasoning, pouting, coercing, blaming, begging, pleading,
demanding, being sad, being angry - any way we can to get them to see
our way. But rarely do we stop and see things their way. Our pride gets
in the way of letting us do that.
I recently received an email from a past Lifted Hearts member. Here is a part of that email:
"....But if it weren't for me remembering the name
"Lifted Hearts" (which DID save my life at one horribly dismal point;
thank GOD for Tiggy!), then I never would have found you. It's BEEN
YEARS! ... The irony of all of this is that I came to Lifted Hearts
with a BROKEN heart; over the selfsame person who is in the other room
and whom I can no longer tolerate! His negativity begins to wear on me
and pulls me down........amazing that it was MY EGO THAT WAS PISSED OFF
ABOUT GETTING DUMPED, not my HEART!!!!!!!!!!!! Live and learn, but
don't paint yourself in a corner where not only am I 'truly' stuck, but
that I've got the prospect of going through the whole 'you go your way
I go mine' (break up) ahead of me; I cannot, will not, live with this
person who is honestly SO NICE, but such an asshole when it comes to
relationships and dealing with me."
It's amazing how many people in a breakup believe it is the loss of
their mate that causes them the grief, when in reality it is the loss
of their ego and pride (which was somehow destroyed by the rejection) that
hurts them the most ... and it is that very loss of ego and
pride that is now causing them to feel a desperate (yet deceiving) need
to regain their ex-boyfriend's or ex-girlfriend's love and approval.
Once you realize this, you can take steps to understand how this loss
of pride and ego has caused you grief, and how the more you try
in a desperate, needy manner to win your ex back the more you
will be even more worthy of their rejection and the
more you will lose your dignity, pride, and ego.
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Today's Inspiration, Poem
Grief -vs- Over It and Moved On
REMORSE: All of a sudden noticing that your ex was wonderful and being
in awe that they were so good-looking, funny, witty, smart, and a great
Over It and Moved On
RELIEF: All of a sudden noticing that your ex is an idiot and being in
awe that you ever thought they were good-looking, funny, witty, smart,
or a great catch.
Prayer or Thought:
After Breakup Encounter
encounter early on in the breakup:
They notice things about the other for the first time since they met,
but pretend to not notice. This is the ouch encounter where both go
home and cry their eyes out til the sun comes up
encounter weeks later:
May pass polite conversation. He asks about the dog, she asks how
things are at work.
encounter, moving on stage:
Slam dunk. Back to square one. The grieving starts all over again. And
just when you thought you were moving on.
encounter, moved on to new relationship:
wonders what she ever saw in him. He wonders if she is having sex with
the new guy.
a reminder that our Breakup
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Thank you for reading this week's newsletter! As always, we welcome
feedback and new ideas for future newsletters.
Have a great week everyone! For
more information about getting over the pain of breakup, please read How to Get Over a Breakup
published by Tigress Luv & Glass Slipper Publishing, the Breakup Gurus. For more
breakup advice and forums please join us at the Lifted Hearts Breakup
Support Forums & Community at http://liftedhearts.com.
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