Your Ex Out To Be Better Than They Are...
IDEALIZING YOUR EX
by Tigress Luv & Glass
hello! I hope everyone had a great Independence Day weekend :)
Sitting outside in my yard Saturday night and watching the fireworks
was the most stress-free time I've had lately. Unfortunately, this year
my mind kept drifting away from the firework display and onto things
that were weighing heavily on my mind since my breakup.
Although the relationship with him (my ex) was really bad the last few
years we were together (as talked about in our ebook 'The
Counterfeit Heart'), the end of a relationship is still
always a sad time, even if you can rejoice in the long-overdue freedom
from the hurt and upset that the relationship may have brought to you.
Yes, my relationship was very hurtful towards the end. He became
especially abusive and cruel. And although it feels good to be out of
that situation, I still mourn the loss of his companionship.
The sane thing any one of us can do is to realize that their
'companionship' may have brought us far more grief than happiness. But
after a breakup, we tend to 'idealize' our exes, and 'deny' the cold,
hard facts...AND THAT IS THE COLD, HARD FACT THAT THEY WEREN'T ALL THAT
GREAT! But the pain caused by a heartbreak is so extreme at times that
it makes us give them a false sense of having a 'higher power' than
they actually deserve or possess.
Ironically, even though you may be 'idealizing' your ex, did you ever
notice that the aftershock of a breakup brings about a certain clarity
of thoughts that being in the relationship can't? You see things both
about yourself, and your ex, that were not all that evident when you
were together. You see how you BOTH made mistakes and poor judgments,
and you think to yourself, "If only I could go back and change these
things then we could have made the relationship work." Unfortunately,
there may be no going back and you may have to learn to deal with the
loss and move on. But the good news is you can now see both the
positive and the negative in yourself, and you can grow with this
knowledge, bettering yourself for future relationships.
It takes a sound mind and heart clear from all sense of loss and grief
to really see the truth about your ex and his or her faults and flaws.
Until then, expect your deceitful (YES, DECEITFUL!) little heart and
mind to play tricks with you and distort your memories. Trust me, no
past love is as wonderful as a broken heart may make them out to be.
"Trust me, no past love is as wonderful
broken heart may make them out to be." ~ Tigress Luv
Take the time this week to really see the truth about your ex. Don't
cloud or distort their wonder because you miss them and the
relationship, but rather try to see them in a clear reality. List their
faults, their flaws, and the terrible way they could make you feel at
times. They probably weren't anywhere near as grand as your broken
heart is building them out to be.
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Today's Inspiration or Quote:
are healed of a suffering only by experiencing it to the full." -
The one who idealizes another is the one who is demonized by them." - Tigress Luv
Today's Prayer or Thought:
"Today I'll try to find just one gift that has come out of my painful
experience, and see if that gift can help me find new ways of loving
myself, and new insights into future happiness. Sometimes, we thank God
for unanswered prayers. Upon searching in my past, I find that many of
my bad experiences have actually contained miracles in disguise.
Today I'll try to focus on the fact that the worst thing that ever
happened to me, may be the best thing that ever happened to
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