RECOGNIZE YOUR EX'S POINT OF VIEW

Try to understand where your ex is coming from.

Look good and hard at all the things that are going on his or her life and recognize how the relationship may have gone sour for them.

Understanding that they are not out to hurt you, but rather are out to find peace and happiness, may help you through this painful stage. Too many people think the fix-all to their grief is to 'get their ex back'. In reality, the fix-all to their hurting is to understand and forgive their ex for his or her choices, and to learn to recognize your grief and work through it.

APATHY!

Apathy does a funny thing to exes. It makes them wonder why you don't care that they are no longer in your life. Subsequently, they start to feel insecure without your acknowledgement, and this creates in them a need to have or regain your love and acceptance.

GET RID OF THE SAD SACK

Stop dragging your sad life story around with you everywhere you go. Study after study shows that happy, smiling people are far more desirable to the opposite sex. By being beautiful inside and out you create a certain radiance about you that is hard to resist. Most underlying causes of breakups are because one party was too demanding, depressing, needy, or miserably unhappy all the time.

So smile! No matter how unhappy you may feel inside at this time in your life try to put it aside and become that energetic, beautiful person that oozes optimism and draws people to them like bees to honey.

REMAIN IN CONTROL OF YOURSELF

If you show anger, blaming, shaming, or contempt they will remember exactly why they chose to leave the relationship.

Remain calm and in control of your emotions. Show understanding, patience, charm, and sweetness. After all, you want them to see the value in being with you...

SHOW YOU HAVE VALUE IN YOURSELF

Stop the begging, crying, pleading, and hopelessness. Do not call them, send them emails, or instant messages. It will make you look and feel pathetic, and it will prove to them that you are of no value to them. If you show them that you have no value without them, they will only see that you have 'no' value period. You will only serve to become unattractive in his or her eyes and push them even farther away from you. Why confirm to them that their decision to leave you was the right one?

Completely love yourself. Your ex will only love and respect you if you love and respect you.

GROW, IMPROVE AND MOVE ON

Exercise, change yourself for the better, improve your health, improve your outlook, improve your mind. Improve your attitude!

Be and look your best!

Then move on with this new you. Make them curious. Make them want to meet you all over again.

Remember, you ARE single again. So get out there and enjoy being free. There is a world of living waiting for you so have some fun!

MYSTERY IS CAPTIVATING

Part of the strategy to grow yourself involves becoming a whole new and better person - one they want to be with and one you feel good about. Once you have improved on you you want to captivate them back to you. To keep him or her captivated to you, you need to keep you hidden, obscure, and unrevealed to them. You need to keep some part of yourself forbidden territory - so completely off limits to them that they can only imagine what mysteries abound. People are mesmerized by a person's enchanting and bewitching mystery.

So, don't let the 'new-improved' you be an open book!

BE TRUE TO YOUR GENDER

Men need to learn to be more masculine and women need to learn to be more feminine. The more feminine a woman is the more manly a man feels when he is with her - and the more he will want to be with her. The more masculine a man is around a woman the more she will feel feminine when around him and the more she will desire to be with him. Stop trying to match the opposite sex thinking that you are pleasing them that way and start getting back in touch with your true identity.

Men, for more help with this read WhyWomenLoveBastards.com and women read ManMagnet.net

LIVE AGAIN

Whether you curl up in a ball and watch the world pass by or you get off your arse and join it, things are going to be exactly the way they are going to be. So you might as well enjoy life. It has the added benefit of making your ex stand up and take notice of you again!

DON'T MEDDLE IN THEIR LIFE

It's none of your business and will most likely hurt you - and your chances of reuniting. Don't ask your ex's family or friends about him or her. Don't drive by their workplace. Don't give them your unsolicited advice or feedback.

Let them go and give them back to themselves. You will be much more attractive this way, and you will feel much better, too.

DON'T APPEAR BURDENSOME BY LACK OF SELF-RESPECT

As stated before, one's lack of respect in oneself is a very unattractive quality. Learn to respect yourself and do not hurt yourself by continuously placing yourself in hurtful situations. The only person you need in your life to feel good about you is you.

PATIENCE IS A VIRTUE - SO BACK OFF

Although it may have come as a surprise to you when you suddenly found yourself 'single' again, relationships do not crumble overnight. You must learn to be patient, as regaining your love back is not going to happen overnight, either.

IF ALL ELSE FAILS: TIME HEALS

Remember the one who invests more in the relationship is the one who hurts the most and grieves the longest, but time truly does heal all wounds. As I always say, "one-hundred years from now it won't matter anyway".

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By Tigress Luv, the Breakup Guru.