to Win an Ex Back: Tips to Help You Get Back Together
RECOGNIZE YOUR EX'S POINT OF VIEW
Try to understand where your ex is coming from.
Look good and hard at all
the things that are going on his or her life and recognize how the
relationship may have gone sour for them.
Understanding that they are
not out to hurt you, but rather are out to find peace and happiness,
may help you through this painful stage. Too many people think the
fix-all to their grief is to 'get their ex back'. In reality, the
fix-all to their hurting is to understand and forgive their ex for his
or her choices, and to learn to recognize your grief and work through
Apathy does a funny thing to
exes. It makes them wonder why you don't care that they are no longer
in your life. Subsequently, they start to feel insecure without your
acknowledgement, and this creates in them a need to have or regain your
love and acceptance.
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GET RID OF THE SAD SACK
Stop dragging your sad life
story around with you everywhere you go. Study after study shows that
happy, smiling people are far more desirable to the opposite sex. By
being beautiful inside and out you create a certain radiance about you
that is hard to resist. Most underlying causes of breakups are because
one party was too demanding, depressing, needy, or miserably unhappy
all the time.
So smile! No matter how
unhappy you may feel inside at this time in your life try to put it
aside and become that energetic, beautiful person that oozes optimism
and draws people to them like bees to honey.
REMAIN IN CONTROL OF YOURSELF
If you show anger, blaming,
shaming, or contempt they will remember exactly why they chose to leave
Remain calm and in control
of your emotions. Show understanding, patience, charm, and sweetness.
After all, you want them to see the value in being with you...
SHOW YOU HAVE VALUE IN
Stop the begging, crying,
pleading, and hopelessness. Do not call them, send them emails, or
instant messages. It will make you look and feel pathetic, and it will
prove to them that you are of no value to them. If you show them that
you have no value without them, they will only see that you have 'no'
value period. You will only serve to become
unattractive in his or her eyes and push them even farther away from
you. Why confirm to them that their decision to leave you was the right
Completely love yourself.
Your ex will only love and respect you if you love and respect you.
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GROW, IMPROVE AND MOVE ON
Exercise, change yourself
for the better, improve your health, improve your outlook, improve your
mind. Improve your attitude!
Be and look your best!
Then move on with this new
you. Make them curious. Make them want to meet you all over again.
Remember, you ARE single
again. So get out there and enjoy being free. There is a world of
living waiting for you so have some fun!
MYSTERY IS CAPTIVATING
Part of the strategy to grow
yourself involves becoming a whole new and better person - one they
want to be with and one you feel good about. Once you have improved on you you want to captivate them back to you. To keep him or her captivated
to you, you need to keep you hidden,
obscure, and unrevealed to them. You
need to keep some part of yourself forbidden territory - so completely
off limits to them that they can only imagine what mysteries abound.
People are mesmerized by a person's enchanting and bewitching mystery.
So, don't let the
'new-improved' you be an open book!
BE TRUE TO YOUR GENDER
Men need to learn to be more
masculine and women need to learn to be more feminine. The more
feminine a woman is the more manly a man feels when he is with her -
and the more he will want to be with her. The more masculine a man is
around a woman the more she will feel feminine when around him and the
more she will desire to be with him. Stop trying to match the opposite
sex thinking that you are pleasing them that way and start getting back
in touch with your true identity.
Men, for more help with this
read WhyWomenLoveBastards.com and women should read ManMagnet.net
Whether you curl up in a
ball and watch the world pass by or you get off your arse and join it,
things are going to be exactly the way they are going to be. So you
might as well enjoy life. It has the added benefit of making your ex
stand up and take notice of you again!
DON'T MEDDLE IN THEIR LIFE
It's none of your business
and will most likely hurt you - and your chances of reuniting. Don't
ask your ex's family or friends about him or her. Don't drive by their
workplace. Don't give them your unsolicited advice or feedback.
Let them go and give them
back to themselves. You will be much more attractive this way, and you
will feel much better, too.
DON'T APPEAR BURDENSOME BY
LACK OF SELF-RESPECT
As stated before, one's lack
of respect in oneself is a very unattractive quality. Learn to respect
yourself and do not hurt yourself by continuously placing yourself in
hurtful situations. The only person you need in your life to feel good
about you is you.
PATIENCE IS A VIRTUE - SO BACK OFF
Although it may have come as
a surprise to you when you suddenly found yourself 'single' again,
relationships do not crumble overnight. You must learn to be patient,
as regaining your love back is not going to happen overnight, either.
IF ALL ELSE FAILS: TIME HEALS
Remember the one who invests
more in the relationship is the one who hurts the most and grieves the
longest, but time truly does heal all wounds. As I always say, "one-hundred
years from now it won't matter anyway".
Not all breakups are the same, or happen for the same reason. For a
more specific plan to win an ex back, please visit our page 'The
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