Is there Life
after being Betrayed by a Sex Addict
by Tigress Luv
just found out that your partner has a sexual addiction that has kept
him/her having a secret life, one that often involves one-night stands,
prostitutes, and 'sex-buddies'.
Number One! Go
get medically tested for STD's and then kick his/her arse to the curb!
You do not need to be together at this time, as space apart is needed
to work through your thoughts, emotions, and feelings.
There are too
many con's and not enough pro's to this situation. But I am not
completely against you two trying to work this out. First, though, you
have to HONESTLY ask yourself these questions...
* can you ever,
ever REALLY trust them again? Or will you find yourself walking on
eggshells, going through his wallet or her purse, following them when
they leave, checking in on him/her at work, listening in on their phone
conversations, and basically never being able to relax? What a HORRIBLE
way to live your life!
* can you ever
really feel fully committed to him/her sexually? Or will you always
want to fight enjoying the sex, because you feel they have belittled
what intimacy you once had. Will your body respond to him/her, or will
you be fighting visions of him/her betraying you repeatedly?
believe that they can overcome their addiction? Or do you secretly fear
that it will simmer and stew and then reappear some years and three
kids down the road?
*can your love
conquer this? Basically, love can conquer most things - but not ALL
things - and, even so, at what cost to you? Is it worth the cost? This
is what you have to ask yourself...is the pain of rebuilding
a life with a sex addict worth it, or will the pain be too much to bare?
Seek a good
support group and try to educate yourself on the subject of sexual
addictions. Urge your partner to seek help for their addiction. If they
refuse, you should understand that their addiction will keep
resurfacing in your relationship.
importantly realize that the truth is within you - only you know how
you feel. Only you know whether you can work this situation out, or
whether you cannot possibly accept this situation in your relationship.
Everyone is different, and every addiction is different.
grows where trust is laid, and love dies where trust is betrayed." ~by Tigress Luv
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