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When Your Relationship Fails
a Good Relationship Fails...
GOOD RELATIONSHIPS GO BAD'
by Tigress Luv & Glass
week we received an email from a woman who had read our ebook, 'Women
Really Do Love Bastards'' (http://whywomenlovebastards.com)
She stated, "I just purchased and am
reading your "Bastards" book. I stumbled across it and feel its been a
I have been the pampered bitch my whole life. Well, at least in the
dating realm. I've been blessed with an abundance amount of beauty and
have never really had to work at relationships with men. If I didn't
get what I wanted... I moved on to the next. Now, 20 years (I'm 36)
into dating, never been married.... I'm exhausted. I've dated every
kind of guy there is .....trying to find out exactly what kind of man
would be the one for me..... until 4 months ago when I met a guy who
rocked my world to the core!
He is a bastard! Exactly like your book describes! The way he treated
me drove me insane... I became addicted. My question is this.....
Since you were so brilliant to finally get the "bastard" traits that
women want... what brilliant advice can you give women to make sure
they keep their "bastard"?
I know now that he and all his "bastard behaviour" is exactly what I
want in a man.
I never want to make the same mistake again! It's taken me 20 years to
figure out what kind of a man I want, if I am ever blessed with the
presence of such a greatness like my dear bastard again, I don't want
to screw it up."
We had to read her letter a few times. Was she
asking us for advice on how to win and keep this type of attractive man
- the man we told men how to become in our ebook?
Curious, we went back and reread the ebook since it had been a while.
While reading, we ran across a statement of ours in the ebook:
"The person who holds the 'power' in a relationship is the
person who remains 'resistant' to the other party, and who gives
the least to the relationship."
Ah, so true! Especially at the end of a relationship...where one party
usually becomes an 'active' partner and one becomes a 'non-active'
The active/nonactive match-up.
In most relationships you will find that one party is actively or
aggressively interested in the relationship - and one party is
receptively or passively interested.
What we mean by this is one party is actively seeking ways to better
the relationship; to work out problems; to keep love and romance alive;
to keep, save, or 'regain' their partner's love; and to pursue a more
deep and meaningful relationship with that of their partner.
When one person takes an active role in their relationship they seek to satisfy their partner, to improve
their partner's happiness, and to secure their
On the other hand, you have the 'non-active', 'passive', or 'receptive'
party who does just the opposite. Not only do they not 'pursue' their
partner, or work on their relationship, but they have a more 'let's
just sit-back and wait' attitude. They may be receptive to their
partner's advances and attention, but do not reciprocate with any of
their own. They take a passive role in their relationships, and have an
attitude of not how they can make their partner happy, or what they can
'add' to their relationships...but rather an attitude of 'how
can my partner make ME happy'
and 'what can Iget
out of this relationship'?
It is an even stranger phenomenon that these roles can be switched at
anytime. Once the active partner assumes the 'non-active' role, the
passive partner takes over the aggressive role of pursuing the
relationship and working towards the happiness of their partner. It's
like a cat-and-mouse game.
We have often been amazed how many people
cannot feel their love for another when that partner's love is given to
them freely, but can feel totally immersed in their partner when they
have to work for their partner's affections. This is an example of the
passive/aggressive relationship, and many good-relationships-gone-bad
fall into this category.
Last weeks' special held over:
Well, you know every week we offer my faithful readers a special deal
on one of our reports or ebooks. Last week we put together a neat,
little package we called 'The Breakup Eraser', and it is a two-phase
method for stopping your breakup, getting them to come back to you, and
making them fall in love with you all over again. For those of you who
would like to take advantage of last week's special offer, we held it
over one more week. Please point your browser to http://www.howtowinanexback.com
And, as usual, our readers are entitled to join the Lifted Hearts aka
'Brokenheartsville' Supoort Forums & Community at a special,
reduced rate at http://liftedhearts.com
For more information on the getting over a breakup and going through
changes please visit our site: http://overabreakup.com
Inspiration, Poem or Quote:
"You closing your heart to me, opened my heart to you."
"I saw you the other day, but you didn't see me. I was the one
hiding in the recesses of your mind." ~ Tigress Luv
Inspiration, Prayer or Thought:
in our attempt to find happiness we love too much, falsely believing
that only another can bring the sun up in our morning.
When we place this burden upon another we relinquish our rights to joy,
we hand over our power to another, and we erroneously inflate their
status in our minds. This is a false love. The object of our burden
becomes our Higher Power, and we, in return, become their slave.
Today let me remind myself that I can see the sun rise on my own, and
that I, alone, hold my own Power in the palms of my hands."
a reminder that our Breakup
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Thank you for reading this week's newsletter! As always, we welcome
feedback and new ideas for future newsletters.
Have a great week everyone!
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Luv, The Breakup Guru
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