'INFIDELITY AND GETTING BACK TOGETHER'
How to Get Your Ex Back After a Breach of Trust


'How to Get Your Ex Back After a Breach of Trust'

(A quick note from me: I apologize but this week's newsletter article (below) is not written by me. I have been out sick again and I am still not feeling well. I do hope you enjoy the following article, though! You can always read my past newsletter articles at: http://tigressluv.com/breakupsupportblog.html

Tiggy [Tigress Luv])

How do you get your ex boyfriend back after a breach of trust? How do you persuade him that it's worth trying to recreate your connection? This is a difficult task, but not an impossible one.

First of all, you need to understand that both parties are responsible for the ending of the relationship. If you breached the trust in the relationship in some way, you probably had your reasons for doing so. However, you cannot excuse your actions by blaming or accusing. If, on the other hand, he was the one who breached the trust, this means that you will have to forgive him, no matter how difficult that might be.

The key to moving forward and getting your ex back is to completely and sincerely forgive both him and yourself. Release any negative emotions you may be holding onto, such as anger, jealousy, hatred or contempt. Make a commitment not to bring up past wrongs in the future. Otherwise, the first time you have a small disagreement, a flood of ancient wrongs will come pouring out once again. This pattern makes it impossible to move forward.

If you were the person who breached the trust in the relationship, whether it was by cheating or in some other way, apologize from the bottom of your heart, not merely as a way to manipulate your ex back into your life. Make a decision to change your behavior and to avoid repeating the same mistakes in the future.

Don't expect that playing hard-to-get will work for you. If the trust in the relationship was breached, you will need to show him that you are serious about reconciliation. If he asks for space, give it to him, but don't wait until it becomes awkward to reconnect. Initially, you may have to take it slow. Work on building the friendship before worrying about how far the relationship will go. It may be that your ex is not sure if he can trust you. You will have to win back his trust before you can win back your ex. Be patient and don't pressure your ex for more than he is ready to give.

However, you should also keep in mind that many relationships do not recover from a breach of trust, especially if the guilty party is not willing to change from the inside out. If it turns out that you are unable to win back your ex, you may simply have to accept this and move on. You will have learned a valuable lesson about trust, and your next relationship will be the better for it.

For more information on getting back together after infidelity please read my report, 'How to STOP a Breakup and Win an Ex Back', which can found at: http://stopabreakup.com

Section 2

Today's Inspiration, Poem or Quote:

"A new chair may look better, but the old one has already been molded to fit your seat." ~Tigress Luv, The Breakup Guru

Today's Prayer or Thought:

"When we release that which we cling to, and cling only unto ourselves, can we truly feel joy again. We must learn to give to ourselves in a loving and nurturing way. We must embrace ourselves, bring our own sun up in the morning, and bask in the glory of us. For it is ourselves, and ourselves alone, that God trusted us to care for, not another broad-shouldered adult.

We must stop watering another's garden while our gardens die from neglect. We must learn and understand that, no matter how beautiful we make their garden, they will not tend to ours in the end. We must understand that another will only care about our gardens when, by our garden's own beauty will they see how lovingly and selfishly we have tended to them ourselves." ~ Tigress Luv, The Break Up Guru.

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Thank you for reading this week's newsletter! As always, I welcome feedback and new ideas for future newsletters.

Have a great week everyone!

Tiggy

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