IS YOUR EX IN YOUR FUTURE?


When we lose someone we love we experience an intense and deep grief. It is natural to grieve, but it may be enlightening to you if you understand that what you are grieving the loss of the MOST is something that hasn't even happened yet. Okay, I'm sure that was a very confusing statement - and one that you probably went back and reread a few times trying to understand - so let me clarify...

When we lose someone that we trusted to be in our lives, we grieve not the loss of them from our past (with them) but rather the loss of them from our future. We grieve not for the loss of what we have already shared with them in the past (you can't take away or 'undo' what has already happened) but more for the loss of what was yet to come.

You miss the presence of them in all of your 'tomorrows'.

See, when we are in committed relationships with someone we care about and love we naturally envision our future with that person in it. We see future holidays shared, children born, grandchildren, vacations, dream homes, career moves, even retirement....whatever we believe our future may hold for us we naturally had also envisioned our partners right there beside us all of the way.

Because of this, after the breakup we are left with a huge, absent place in our souls and minds...a place where all our hopes and dreams of tomorrow once lived. We sadly realize that the way we had envisioned our future has now all changed, and an empty reason for living now has replaced our dreams of our future.

We suddenly must alter our dreams and everything that we once believed was real; we now must learn to envision a new future - one without them in it. And so we grieve the loss of our 'dream future' with our partners and we end up feeling we have nothing left to live for or no reason to go on.

These are all false emotions and feelings that are brought on by the loss of our future in the way we once envisioned it.

Helping recover from the grief of a breakup, and the empty and hopeless feelings left behind in its wake, includes learning how to redefine your future. You need to stop envisioning your future with him or her in it, and start planning and envisioning a future with a different partner - one that will most likely be far more suited to you.

For more help with this please read my ebook, HOW TO BREAK FREE FROM THEIR SPELL, found at http://breakfreefromtheirspell.com

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Today's Inspiration, Poem or Quote:

"You can take away my heart and you can take away my reason to wake up in the morning, but you can't take away my ability to take them right back from you. "~ Tigress Luv, The Breakup Guru

Today's Prayer or Thought:

"When your ex gave you their love you had it to keep. That which is given to you, cannot be taken away from you. The only thing taken away from you was the wish to have it given to you again.

Remember that memories are what you have, when you've lost everything else. Dreams are what you have, when you forget the memories. And bliss is what you have when you give up both.

Just for today realize that what you may be grieving for is not what you have lost, but what you have never had." ~ Tigress Luv, The Breakup Guru.

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Thank you for reading this week's newsletter! As always, I welcome feedback and new ideas for future newsletters.

Have a great week everyone!

Tiggy

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