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Before You End That Relationship
You Really Want to End your Relationship?...
BEFORE ENDING YOUR
by Tigress Luv & Glass
'Questions to Ask Before Ending a Relationship'
(NOTE: This is the first part of a three-part
series to be delivered over the month.
Part One: (Todays' Newsletter) - Questions To Ask Yourself
BEFORE Ending a Relationship
Part Two: The REAL Reasons Why People Ask for Relationship 'Breaks' or
Part Three: How to End a Relationship
Part One: What Questions Should You Ask Yourself Before Ending a
1) DO I REALLY WANT TO END THIS
RELATIONSHIP? Make sure you are
SURE you want to end the relationship! Don't burn your bridges and then
decide you want to do a u-turn and go back. There are many ways to
break up with your partner; there aren't that many ways to get them
back after you ripped their world apart. Most of the time, once a
relationship is over, it is over. Are there any
questions to ask yourself before ending the relationship with your
soon-to-be ex? Yes, this is a big - and permanent step - so make sure
you have resolved to the fact that the relationship is over.
2) HOW WILL MY WORLD BE DIFFERENT WITHOUT THEM IN
IT? Will your life be better or worse? Will there be more
peace, or will there be emptiness? Do they improve your life,
or do they make your life full of anxiety and stress?
3) CAN OUR RELATIONSHIP PROBLEMS BE WORKED OUT? Many
relationships have problems that seem huge, but in reality are really
quite manageable. It is easy to seek outside help, or to buy books that
are aimed at helping you get through difficult relationship problems.
Some problems, however, like abuse, are not 'fixable'. One should never
stay in an abusive relationship. Life is too short to waste it living
in unhappiness and fear.
DO YOU SECRETLY HOPE THAT ENDING THE RELATIONSHIP WILL ACTUALLY BRING
THEM CLOSER TO YOU? Are you hoping that by leaving your mate
you make them realize that they are behaving or treating you in a way
that just isn't acceptable by you? Are you hoping that ending the
relationship will 'wake your mate up' and treat you better?
5) ARE YOU GOING TO REGRET ENDING THE
RELATIONSHIP? This is serious question. Can you imagine your
life without this person in it? Does the thought of them moving on and
getting involved with someone else make you shudder?
6) IS OUR PRIDE AND EGO GETTING IN THE WAY OF OUR
HAPPINESS TOGETHER? Sometimes, pride can destroy the best of
relationships. There is no place for pride in a successful
relationship. It can be awfully lonely being 'right'. Often times the
key to relationship success is to throw away your pride and just be the
fall-guy... "Yep, I'm an idiot and I was the wrong one. I'm
7) IS MY LACK OF ABILITY TO ACCEPT THEM 100%
CAUSING A RELATIONSHIP RIFT? If you cannot accept your
partner 100% - faults, flaws, quirks, and all - then you will not be
happy with them. Getting out of this relationship will not cure
you. You will not ever be happy in any relationship without first
learning that the key to 'relationship happiness' is in being able to
acknowledge and accept all your partners negative characteristics as
well as their positive ones, because every partner you will ever have
will have some 'flaw'. Nothing is perfect in nature.
8) ANSWER THE BELOW QUESTIONS HONESTLY: For
instance, don't fill in the question with a romantic or angry look at
your partner, but RATHER with an honest and UNBIASED answer.
Do you love spending time together?
Do you rarely disagree on things?
Do you have a lot in common, and share many interests?
Is the sex good?
Are you physically attracted to their appearance?
Do they treat your family and friends well?
Do they have a pleasing personality?
Can you talk to this person?
Do you know why you want to break up?
Do you both share the same dreams, aspirations, and goals?
Do you fight a lot?
Do they show you they care by doing those little things that often go
Do they ever make you feel bad about yourself?
Are they truthful and loyal?
Are you scared of this person?
Many people think they have the upper hand in
a relationship should they be the one to end it 'first'. Not so.
Initiating a breakup doesn't give you power over how the other person
thinks or feels.
I said I don't want to see you anymore why did you choose that
particular statement to be the only one you ever listened to?" ~Tigress
Luv, The Breakup Guru)
that once you end a relationship, it may be over - lost and gone to you
- forever. Therefore please think long and hard before making the
decision to end a relationship.
Some people may think they are playing it safe by asking for a 'time
out' instead of actually just ending it. For the most part, a
'time-out' means... (PLEASE STAY TUNED FOR NEXT WEEK'S NEWSLETTER FOR
THE ANSWER TO THIS QUESTION)
How you can stop the ending of your relationship.
Inspiration, Poem or Quote:
"My special place. It's a place no amount of hurt and anger can deface.
I put things back together there. It all falls right in place - In my
special space. My special place." ~
Prayer or Thought:
for today I will make my very own special place. Whether it be in my
heart, in my mind, or in my home. A sanctuary where I can go and visit
'me', away from the world outside. A place that exists only to embrace
me. A space set aside, from all that abides. My space can be chiseled
out of a forest bed, carved out of a golden meadow, or gently echoed in
my heart. See, that I have a space is not for you, but for me.
Just for today I will find my own sanctuary, and park my troubles
outside its door to await for me to retrieve them when I return
from.... My Special Place."
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Have a great week everyone!
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Luv, The Breakup Guru
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