survive without commitment. Both commitment to each other and to the relationship. Make a conscious commitment to your relationship
and to your partner. Work on eliminating blame, criticism, and
invalidation from your side. If you are guilty of it, accept your
responsibility and apologize to your partner. Try to
understand your motivating reasons behind your undesired behavior.
Every day make the effort to do at least one loving/caring act towards
partner needs to be appreciated as much as you do. Make an effort to
express more appreciation for all those little things your partner does
for you. Often, the little things go unnoticed but add up to so much
more than the big things. Taking the garbage out, folding the
laundry, making dinner, bringing them a cold drink, fixing the hair
dryer, or even putting the toilet seat down!
is key to successful relationships. No matter what,
you have to accept every thing about your partner. If there is
something about him/her that you simply cannot accept then the
relationship probably is in trouble. Remember, acceptance is NOT
approval. For instance, your partner may be an alcoholic. This is not
your choice, it is theirs. It is also not your place to cure them - it
is theirs. In the same respect though, it is your place to accept them
for who they are and what they are - to accept that they are an
alcoholic. But, in no way, does acceptance mean that you have to
approve! Acceptance and approval are not the same
take a look at your role in any relationship
problems. Yes, you can change other people -
simply by changing yourself!
5. Be aware of
how you communicate! Are you guilty of hearing in a defensive mode and
speaking in an offensive mode? Do you 'act' or 'react'?
partner is not a mind reader. Be specific when asking for something, or
relaying your needs. If necessary, write them down on paper if talking
about them makes you uncomfortable.
Sometimes the biggest mistakes we can make is to think that
relationships are something we have to 'work' at. Stop 'working' on
your relationship! Develop good communication skills, acceptance,
appreciation, commitment, and trust. The relationship will follow.
8. Be aware
that power struggles and insecurities often masquerade themself as
love. This is false love. True love is supportive. For more insight on
true and false love read the eBook, How to Get Over a Breakup,
and for help in saving your relationship, mending bad relationships,
and stopping your breakup or divorce and winning your ex's heart back
read How to STOP a Breakup.
relationships can be 'salvaged', transformed, and bettered. Breaking up
and moving on doesn't solve the problem as any 'issues' you may have
will follow you into any new relationships.
published by Tigress Luv & Glass Slipper publishing, the Breakup Gurus. For more
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