Tips for an Amicable Breakup
If the two of you have children together, keep in mind that you will be
in touch with each other until one of you dies. Never let your children
see hostility, animosity, or any other bad feeling flow between you and
your ex. Do not exchange unkind words with your ex in front of the
children, and do not force your children to take sides. Never speak bad
of your ex to your children! Your children have the right to reap the
benefits of a joyous childhood.
2. The way you
handle your breakup will make a huge impact on the rest of your life,
and on any other future relationships you may have. If you have strong
feelings of worthlessness, anger, resentment, hopelessness, or the
inability to accept the breakup, professional counselling may be
necessary to help you cope with and understand these emotions.
that you are in complete control of your
responses and emotions to any situation. You have the ability to
control your 'actions', simply by not allowing them to become
4. Allow your
grief to happen. Grief is not something you get over, it is something
you get through. Cry if you feel sad. Punch your pillow. Call your
mother, your best friend, or a close colleague and wail away. They'll
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that most of your grief comes from the death of the dream of 'forever'.
Replan your future and set some new and realistic goals to strive for.
6. Don't rush
into dating again. When you were in your relationship you gave 'pieces'
of yourself to your mate and to your relationship. Wait until you have
regained all your pieces back before thinking about giving of yourself
again in another relationship. Additionally, don't introduce new dates
to your children right away. Make sure you have a solid relationship
with another person before bringing them into your home and introducing
them to your children. Children feel loss, too.
7. If you are
getting a divorce, try to talk with your soon-to-be-ex regarding
divorce settlements and visitation rights outside of your lawyers. Peaceful arrangements are much more rewarding to both
you, your ex, and your children, than long, drawn-out and
8. Take good care of your health. I
remember looking in the mirror a couple of months after my breakup and
being shocked by the Zombie staring back at me. As hard as it may be at
this trying time, please try to eat healthy, get adequate rest, and
plenty of exercise..
more information about getting over the pain of breakup, please read How to Get Over a Breakup
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