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The Break Up Epiphany
epiphany of the New Year!
by Tigress Luv and Glass
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I have been helping people overcome the
heartache of a broken relationship for decades. I thought I knew
heartbreak inside and out, upside and down. There wasn't anything you
could say to me that I didn't know of, hadn't experienced,
or had an answer to.
Well, that was until I started dealing with those who were coming out
of a relationship with a narcissist. They just couldn't heal using the
normal path that everyone else could. I just didn't get it; why did
some people seem to find help, comfort, insight and condolence from my
advice, and others seem to be so hopelessly caught up in the bitterness and anger and grief and rejection and pain?
At least that was until I, myself, experienced a breakup with a
narcissist! I have always said God didn't waste any lessons on me, and
this was one hard-learned lesson!
Narcissistic exes can cause their own kind of 'special' pain. It's like
the relationship never happened. It's like they went from loving you to
hating you and to then not even remembering you at all - almost
overnight. They can be mean, heartless, lack empathy, lack remorse,
lack love. And, just like a commitmentphobe, they at first idolize you
then they devalue you, seeing you as an ogre and virtually turning on
this loathing of you practically overnight (or so it seems). Feeling
this sudden loss of your appeal can be especially hurtful!
Then the narcissist will take you to the cleaners and trash your good
character all around town. They are such expert actors that they can
easily fool people into believing anything they want them to believe - about
you. They can turn even the smartest of people against you,
bias judges against you, and even turn your own children, family and
lifelong friends against you.
They can totally dismiss you as if you are not even alive. They can sit
right in front of you and never once look at you.
Yes, breaking up with a narcissist is unlike any typical breakup you
will ever go through...and hopefully unlike any breakup you will ever
go through again. It is an experience that a few unfortunate people go
though and barely recover from unless they know what to expect.
And the people in your life just don't understand. They say
well-meaning things like, 'let it go', 'move on', and my personal,
all-time most irrational and irritating favorite, 'get over it'. Ha!
You haven't felt the cold, icy stab of devaluation and rejection until
you experience the end of a relationship with a narcissist. This pain
is what prompted me to write my new ebook on the subject, "The
Counterfeit Heart". You can read the foreword to the ebook by
going to http://breakingupwithyournarcissist.com and clicking on the 'foreword' link on that page.
BREAKUP TIP OF THE WEEK: Do not fret over what your ex may think of
you. Their thoughts are based on their own distorted reality, which is
not anywhere close the national average.
BREAKUP INSPIRATION OR QUOTE OF THE WEEK: When you think of the
immensity of the universe, you can see how really small the person is
that you are crediting with being the 'be-all' to your life.
BREAKUP THOUGHT OF THE WEEK: People are as happy as they chose to be.
If you stop and think about it there are so many ways you can find
happiness today, regardless of what may be happening in your life right
now. Your attitude toward your day determines how much happiness can be
found from this day.
Today stop blaming others for whether you're happy or not, and see that
you, and you alone, are responsible for your attitude and the decisions
you make toward your own personal happiness. Today stop being sad that
roses have thorns and start rejoicing that thorns come with roses.
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Thank you for reading this week's newsletter! As always, we welcome
feedback and new ideas for future newsletters.
And, that my friend, was The Break Up Epiphany! Have a great week everyone!
Tigress Luv &
Glass Slipper Publications
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Luv, The Breakup Guru
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