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Break-Ups and Neediness
Breakups create neediness,
how to stop needing your ex and get on
with your life!
Why a Breakup Creates a
False Sense of Neediness In All of Us
you break up from a romantic and intimately close relationship, the
feelings of confusion, anger, anxiety, anguish, abandonment, loneliness
and worthlessness cloud your mind. You feel an emotional vacuum or void
that pulls you in deeper sorrow and as a result, a false sense of
neediness arises. You want something that can smoothen the creases of
the heart and makes you feel better. The low self-esteem in these
difficult times comes out as an unexplained need.
After a breakup
you need something that can give you a high. Some vent it out by
getting some sex via one-nighters; get into unsuitable rebound
relationships; indulge in compulsive food binging; excessively engage
in drugs or alcohol; or go on shopping sprees that would put Donald
Trump in the poor house! The pain is so deeply imbedded in your soul
that it is difficult to accept the fact that the love of your life is
no more a part of your life. As a result, you look for substitutes to
take their place and this feeling translates into a false sense of
neediness. You want something or someone so badly that you don't really
stop and ask why. You just feel this 'urgency' to be pacified, and that
creates an illusional image of your ex being far more important to your
life than they actually are.
The feelings of
helplessness, anger, or frustration result from your inability to win
back your mate. You are in fragile state of mind and want a relief from
this unwanted vulnerability wherein people can see through your mask of
best way to seek revenge from an ex, who cheated on you or dumped you,
is to live well and grow over your sorrows. To accomplish this you need
to be in good company - which is sometimes hard to come by! So, unless
you have a really terrific support network, your empty sense of
neediness weighs on you. You will feel consumed by such an intense
yearning to belong 'somewhere' and a have deep desire to find another
relationship - one that soothes you from the feelings of vulnerability
and masks your inability to get on with your life.
Remember, breakups create neediness, how to stop needing your ex and get on with your life -- more advice about getting over the pain of breakup can be found in Tigress Luv's online report, How to Get Over a Breakup
You may feel
physically deprived and you may crave sex badly. A breakup from a
physically intimate relationship is worse because you may not only feel
abandoned emotionally but you may also feel that possibly you did not
satisfy your partner physically. Therefore, to reassure your self-worth
to yourself you yearn to get into a new physically intimate
relationship without weighing the repercussions.
Those who binge
when they undergo a breakup are only trying to fill the emotional void
by transferring it physically into the act of eating. The real hunger
is of emotions and love - not food. On the other hand there are those
who throw themselves into their work and set moneymaking as their
ultimate escape from misery. This is, again, a way to fill the gap
created by loss of love.
The false sense
of neediness is nothing but our attempt to escape from misery. We do
not want to face or accept the reality and as a result we look for ways
that can help us stay away from it. It is simple denial. By not facing
the facts of your relationship breakup, you are bound to be attached to
the emotional pain for a very long time.
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Luv, The Breakup Guru
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